Rebecca Davies Psychotherapy & Counselling
City of London EC1 & West London W10
Individuals & Couples Psychodynamic Psychotherapist
Coming to couples' psychotherapy can feel like a big step for many reasons. You might be desperate to talk about the difficulties in your relationship but scared at the same time about what might happen as a result. The problems you and your partner are facing might be hard to speak about if they’re sensitive, intimate or historical. You might not even understand exactly why you’re not getting on with each other. I can help you navigate all this and more.
The psychodynamic approach I take to couple relationships is through a close and careful examination of what each partner brings to the relationship, that can mean your ideas and feelings about how you want to be treated, related to and loved. In addition, each partner needs to understand and reflect on how their own behaviour, attitudes and feelings affect the other. I can help you both understand what you bring, why you bring it and how it makes you 'fit' together and how it's working - or not. Your past will be part of what you bring but there will be other experiences too, often things you're not conscious of.
I will work to help you both identify what the issues are in your relationship by first coming to know more about you both individually and the history of your relationship together. Couples' psychotherapy invites the couple to talk about feelings and thoughts they have towards each other and about the problems they are having. I aim to support you both in this process and help you understand what is happening between you and to you.
Sometimes problems in a relationship can be identified and resolved quite quickly but some problems need more time to be explored and understood. Some feelings and experiences need to be shared and reflected on. Some relationship issues I have worked with are: communication, sex & intimacy, divorce or separation, betrayal or unfaithfulness, fertility, pregnancy & parenting, work & family pressures, alcohol & addiction issues.
